You have a very strong mangal dosha which is formed when Mars is placed in the 8th house of the natal chart. You should look for a mangalik alliance. It is not going to be easy but I feel if you try you will get the results towards the end of 2016. Do not look for any other match besides Mangalik as you will not match.
Keeping tension is not the solution for anything, your efforts should bring you results. I strongly feel that the period ahead is more favourable.