Sir please reply if anything right then i will ans your query
Violence is the major issue
After marrying her you started to had trobuled relations with your maternal side of family also got cheated in property related deal with friend like brother which was on a loan/ finance, due to which you had lots of mental tension.
After marriage had lots of ego struggle as she tried to take control of your lots of bank accounts money and also become a valid partner in your inherited property and salary also made sure you had a common bank account which right she held.
As you were spending a lot of money on education and building a school for children also during your marriage your father was not happy and kind of absent. And you had verbal exchange over past issues with a close friend.