Hi,
Request you to kindly bear with me and feel free to ignore anything that is not to your taste or liking, in my response (see below) to your query.
In my humble opinion, you seem to be somebody who is hot headed and short-tempered. Moon/Chandra seems to be adrift, with limited support on either side of the flanks, making you a bit indecisive, lonesome with limited friends and social life. You are currently in the midst of Sade-Sathi or Saturn/Shani-dev’s transit across natal placement of Moon/Chandra. So, the next couple of years are going to be a bit tense, trying/testing and stressful. For the records, upcoming Antara lords Mercury/Budha and Ketu (as also Rahu) have below par Vimsopaka Bala and their time-periods will be a bit challenging… with an over bearing influence of Ketu.
Anyways, it does looks like you are destined to get separated (mostly based on afflictions in your birth-chart). As for your wife’s birth-chart, unless I’m missing something very obvious, I think her birth-chart has fewer afflictions… although Lagna Lord Mars/Kuja and 9th lord being close to Mrityu Bhaga and within the fatal Trimsamsa degrees is a cause for concern. So, the time-period from mid-2026 to mid-2027 will be a critical.
If I were to take the liberty, I think you would do well to reconsider your decision and accept her the way she is.
Take care…