Hi,
Just so you are aware, you (wife) are in the midst of Ketu Maha-Dasha. He is placed in the 12th house of Vyaya/Losses and posited in the Lunar Constellation of Ardra Nakshatra, ruled by Rahu. Incidentally, Rahu and Ketu participate in Sukshma Parivarthana Yoga, activating each other. Rahu is not in the best of mood and has below part Vimsopaka Bala. So, the Lunar Nodes Rahu-Ketu have made your life a bit of a roller-coaster ride. Jupiter/Guru-dev being posited in the Lunar Constellation of Magha Nakshatra ruled by Ketu is adding on to the detached feeling… putting stress on your relationship
On the sidelines, Lagna Lord Moon/Chandra being placed in his Neecha-Sthana or sign of debilitation is not a good sign… as is the case with Mercury/Budha, perhaps an indication of reduced intellect. This in combination with 7th lord Saturn/Shani-dev strongly placed in his Swasthana in the 7th house and forming a strong Sasa Maha-Purusha Yoga has perhaps given you a bit of carefree attitude.
Your husband has anger/temper issues, with a bit of a weak mind. You see Moon/Chandra being placed in the 8th house of Ashtama-Sthana and current Maha-Dasha is that of Moon/Chandra. Further, he has just started Sade-Sathi or Saturn/Shani-dev’s transit across natal placement of Moon/Chandra. Lagna & 10th lord Mercury/Budha being placed in the 12th house is perhaps an indication of challenges at workplace. Lastly, Ketu being active and having a strong influence in making him feel detached cannot be denied.
All said and done, I’m inclined to think he says things in the spurt of the moment out of anger or frustration and hopefully does not mean it. Given the situation, it would perhaps make sense for you guys to offer special prayers to Lord Ganesh on a daily basis, with unwavering faith, bhakti/devotion and a strong Sankalpa.
PS: Please let me/us know where you reside, purely our of academic interest.
Take care…