Hi,
To me, birth-time for both seem to be rounded off – would help if we had clarity on the accuracy. That said, it looks like there was something unconventional about your marriage/relationship. Beyond that, it looks like both of you have anger/temper issues… in your husband’s case, it can get uncontrollable – looks like he will not be himself or becomes a completely different person whenever he loses his cool/composure.
Both of you are having an impact of Saturn/Shani-dev’s current transit. You are in the midst of Ashtama-Shani or Saturn/Shani-dev’s transit across the 8th house from natal placement of Moon/Chandra… brining some discord in domestic/personal life, while your husband has been in the midst of peak Sade-Sathi or Saturn/Shani-dev’s transit across natal placement of Moon/Chandra. The current time period is not really a pleasant one for either/both of you. Things will continue to be a bit stressful at least for the next one-year – if not two.
As for your query about permanent separation or divorce, it would make sense to get some background and understand your support structure – for assessing Desha-Kaala-Patra.
Take care…