Hi,
To me it looks like you are prioritizing living in the US, over living together and/or having kids, unlike some folk who seem give higher priority to family – parents, kids, their upbringing, education etc. In case you are truly interested, it would help for you to realize both of you are putting on age with each passing day and possibly contributing to more difficulties and challenges down the line.
Please feel free to ignore whatever is not to your taste/liking and consider seeking as many alternate opinions as you would like.
Take care…