Hi,
A quick look at your birth-chart seems to indicate you give/contribute as much as you take. It does look like you husband becomes extremely angry and violent… while you seem to play your part to perfection, by way of instigating, irritating etc. In other words, you are also prone to uncontrollable anger/temper and violent outbursts.
Given the situation, it would perhaps make sense for you guys to seek immediate professional help help/guidance.
Take care…