Hi,
Assuming birth-details are accurate, I have an idea what might be going on. Incidentally, things can get a bit more trying/testing with Saturn/Shani-dev’s transit to the Zodiac sign of Pisces or Meena Rashi and onset of Ashtama-Shani for both yourself and your wife.
Incidentally, you seem to be in the fag end of Jupiter/Guru-dev’s Maha-Dasha and your wife is heading toward the fag end of her troublesome Rahu Maha-Dasha (as per Vimsottari Dasha system). Upcoming Maha-Dashas for both of you are not really pleasant.
Anyways, it would perhaps help if you were to provide some insight into your observations/experiences that has precipitated matters, as also some background to help set the context.
Take care…