Hi,
You are currently in the midst of Lagna Lord Venus/Shukra’s Maha-Dasha. He is Vakra/Retrograde and still very close to Gandanta degrees, at the edge of 10th house of Karma-Sthana in Karkataka Rashi. He is caught between Neecha or debilitated 2nd & 7th lord Mars/Kuja and Sun/Ravi. Ketu placed in the 2nd house of Wealth/Family Expansion, Vakra/Retrograde Mercury/Budha and lastly mutual aspect of Uccha or exalted Saturn/Shani-dev and Mars/Kuja are not really helping your cause. By nature, you seem to be very temperamental. You are probably intelligent and seem to misuse your intelligence (that at least could be a perception you seem to give to most people around you).
Your husband is in the midst of Neecha or debilitated 12th lord Moon/Chandra Maha-Dasha. Lagna Lord Sun/Ravi is placed in his Neecha-Sthana or sign of debilitation, along with (6th &) 7th lord of Relationship – Saturn/Shani-dev placed in his Uccha-Sthana or sign of exaltation.
Given that both of you are close to 40 years of age, I hope better sense prevails, you’ll realize your mistakes and work towards a wise/sensible decision.
Take care..