Thanks for replying back Buddy ji.
Yes it was a Love cum arranged marriage. I got married on 1st may 2006 after a dating for 4-5 years. My dad gave lot of dowry as he loved me a lot.
Though there were always some frictions as my husband used to get very hyper even on small-small things and sometimes even broke off the household items. But, there was a little improvement after the birth of my daughter in Oct 2012. And things went smooth till my son’s birth in August 2015. But, since 2017 I started realizing changes in his behavior and also about his numerous affairs or flings.
Since then our relationship started to deteriorate, he stopped taking interest in family life and household responsibility as a husband and father, started ignoring me, my existence was unimportant for him, started coming home very late in night and finally our marital relationship broke completely in the beginning of 2020.
Myself and my husband and our kids used stay in a different city than that of my parents and in in-laws who both stay in same city. The separation happened so, that I came to meet my parents house while my kids were at my in-laws place. Using this opportunity, my husband took my kids away to our matrimonial home in another city. Thereafter he never allowed me to return back. I tried to reason out with my in-laws but there are also helpless and there relations with my husband are also strained to an extent.
Since then I am living at my parents house while my children are with him. I am unable to go back as he threatens me with dire consequences if I return back. Also he is not allowing me to talk to our kids. I don’t know what to do.
Lawyers have advised me not to file for Divorce case from my side, as the courts may consider me as a bad woman who is hell bent on destroying her married life and children life also and would not grant me custody of kids.
Should I wait more as it has already been 4+ years or should I go ahead and take some legal actions or opt for Divorce and custody case.